no one’s ever said ‘no shit, sherlock’ to sherlock holmes in either of the modern-day reinterpretations of the holmes canon and that’s a failure of modern society
(Source: katnisseverclear)
Why the friendzone is bullshit and self-proclaimed "nice guys" are misogynists
Wow, accidentally deleted my original post. Reblogging so I can keep it in my archives.
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As defined by urban dictionary, the friendzone is…
“When you are expected to support a girl you really like while she searches for a smarter, richer, and more handsome boyfriend. There is little you can do without feeling like a dick. All in all, one of the meanest things a girl can do, whether they mean it or not.”
and ”The perennial location of nice guys everywhere.”
Although this hypothetical situation could work both ways, friendzone is almost always applied to a man who is rejected by a woman. Therefore, there is something inherently unequal, something inherently sexist about the term “friendzone”. But what and why?
From my experience, this is what friend zone is. A “nice guy” pursues a woman, but isn’t forward with his intentions from the get-go like, say, a “jerk”. The woman is pleased to see a man who is interested in her not as a sexual object but as a human being and wishes for things to stay that way. The man is not satisfied with seeing the woman as a human being because being “expected to support a girl” is a bad deal if she’s not putting out.
Before I delve into the sociological aspects of this, I just want to point out that ”friendzone” is no more pleasant for a woman than it is a man. First, that is to say unrequited love works both ways, but the person who doesn’t return affections is considered mean only when she’s a woman. And second, what option does the woman have in a traditional “friendzone” situation? Just stop talking to a close friend to avoid “leading him on”? In high school, I found out my best friend of 2 years liked me. Having to tell him I didn’t feel the same way and being immediately ex-communicated via Facebook status (“Thanks for wasting my time”) was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. Were our two years of friendship invalid because I didn’t want anything more? Was all our time together really wasted because there was no hypothetical pay off?
Guys who do this and claim to be “nice guys” are the worst misogynists because of their sense of entitlement toward a woman. They make investments in property and expect their dividends. They are fake friends. They are selfish. And they will jump at the chance to vilify you and victimize themselves when their attempts at manipulation don’t work. Clearly, “friendzone” is the remnant of a phenomenon that has plagued women since the beginning of time: women are not independent creatures. Our love lives exist only in the context of a man’s desire. When we make independent decisions, we are subject to a host of derogatory terms. “Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”
this gif is my favorite thing in the world, the way Misha turns around expecting a normal sized human
The way Jared puts his hand on Mishas hip and leans in there is no personal space I need a minute
hands up if you sing duets with yourself
Fuck that I sing “Bohemian Rhapsody” by myself
IS THIS THE REAL LIFE
if you cunts think you’re about to start singing bohemian rhapsody on my post I will kick you so fucking hard your mother’s mother will feel it
…is this just fantasy
(Source: drlectere)
WHY DO YOU KEEP THROWING YOUR STUFF UGH I’LL GET IT
he looks like a moose being tranquilized
Correction: That IS a moose being tranquilized.
(Source: winchesterstyles)
my preferred method of suicide is sex with Sam Winchester
one time my friend sent a pic of a birthday cookie but he didn’t have candles so instead he lit a green bean on fire
what if john really was just on a real hunting trip and he was stalking a deer through the woods and then he comes back and jess is dead and sam is back in the game and he’s just like
god dammit dean
I don’t think there’s any hope for this not looking ridiculous, so I didn’t even try.
(Source: sureashale)
My little sister is getting made fun of at school because she’s adopted.
This is what she responded with “Well, my parents chose me. Your parents are stuck with you.”
